When someone has an eating disorder, it can cause confusion and even arguments with their family members. A family member might feel like they’re being blamed for their loved one’s eating disorder, or they may be unable to understand why the person affected can’t simply “stop” the behavior. It is important to remember that eating disorders are caused by a variety of factors, including genetics, social structures, culture, environment, and more. It is no one’s “fault” and no one can simply stop their eating disorder.
The person with an eating disorder has to decide that they want to address the issue. It is generally not recommended to force a person into treatment unless the situation is dire and they have been assessed by a Clinical Director. The core issues of the disorder have to be addressed. Family involvement can help with this, so long as everyone comes to the table with an earnest desire to listen, understand, and work towards a solution.